13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do by Amy Morin Book Summary
Today we will talk about 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. Have you ever asked your heart what it really wants? Just think. A life where you don't need the approval of others. Where you can move forward leaving your mistakes in the past.
Where you don't feel jealous seeing someone's success. Rather, you should be happy from the heart. Where you have so much gratitude inside you that you can accept every changing situation with open arms. But what happens in reality?
We become sad over small things. A harsh comment from someone pierces our heart like an arrow. We keep remembering the same old mistakes again and again and keep thinking.
I wish I had not done this. Or when someone moves ahead of us, a slight jealousy arises inside. Now imagine. If you become free from these feelings. You get so much mental strength that no situation can break you.
Neither should you get entangled in the past nor should you get suffocated in the worries of the future. Just be able to live every moment to the fullest. But the suspenseful thing is that to become strong, you do not need to adopt more habits as much as you need to leave these weaknesses.
Actually, we create most of our problems ourselves. We create such patterns inside our mind that take us again and again to the same sorrow, the same guilt, the same jealousy. Now think, are you ready for this journey? For such a journey where you will go to those lanes of your mind where there is darkness and fear.
But there you will also find the door that will take you towards true freedom. Perhaps this journey will not be easy. Some things will hurt you too. But as you move forward, you will feel that you have become lighter, more free and stronger than ever before.
So let's open both heart and mind and step into the world of this book. Because it is possible that when this summary ends, you will not be the same person as you are now. You have met the greatest power of your mind. Your own mental strength. Are you ready?Let's dive in.
Friends, the first thing that mentally strong people do not do is they do not waste time feeling sorry for themselves. Just think. How many times has it happened that something bad happened to you and you sat quietly in your room and felt sorry for yourself. When you felt that your fate is bad that the world is taking revenge on you for some unknown reason.
There were tears in your eyes and only one question in your heart - why me? We humans are strange too. As long as everything goes well, we remain happy. But as soon as some trouble knocks at the door, we break down.
We consider ourselves a victim. We keep thinking that the life of other people is so perfect and ours is full of just two rights and problems. But imagine if you come to know that even the strongest people in the world have problems. Injustice happens to them too. Their dreams also get shattered.
But the only difference is that they don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves. They use their energy not in nurturing that pain but in getting out of it. Put your hand on your heart and ask. Does that pain reduce if you cry or remain sad? Whatever was to happen has happened.
Now your crying over it is not breaking you further. Think, the longer you feel sorry for yourself, the longer you will stay away from the solution that can get you out of that condition. And yes, this doesn't mean that you should not feel the pain. Feel it, cry even if you feel like it.
But don't get stuck there. Don't let the sadness settle in your heart because the more you consider yourself helpless, the weaker you will feel. Now think, there are two paths in front of you. One that will keep drowning you in sadness and the other that will teach you to come out of that sadness and smile again.
Which path will you choose? This is the real suspense. Because when you stop feeling sorry for yourself, then you will know how powerful you are from within. Then you will understand that the steering of your life is in your own hands. So are you ready to break this first chain of your mind? Let's move ahead.
Friends, now let's know the second thing that mentally strong people don't do. They don't give away their power. Just think how many times has it happened that someone's one word, one view or one useless comment spoiled your entire mood. As soon as he said something, your heart sank. You also got angry and then the whole day was ruined. That person said his thing in just a few seconds. But you handed over your peace, your happiness to him at that very moment.
Now imagine that you have a remote in your hand. With this remote you can control your emotions, your happiness, your mind. But as soon as someone hurts you or speaks ill of you, you yourself go and hand over that remote to him.
Think how strange it is. Giving the power of your feelings to someone else. Then that person decides when you should be happy, when sad. If he praises you, you are happy. And if he ignores you, your heart breaks.
It is so easy to control you. Do you really want to feel so powerless? Put your hand on your heart and think. Do you like being sad every time because of someone else? Why do you hand over the strings of your emotions to someone else? Why don't you become the master of your own mind?
In fact, whenever you wish that someone else should make you sad, make you angry or break your confidence, you give your power to that very person. Then don't complain that your life is not in your control.
Now just imagine. If you take this power back. No matter what anyone says, your happiness, your confidence remains in your hands. Whether they ignore you or insult you, your heart remains equally stable. How much fun would that be? This is not easy, but not impossible either.
Slowly, by taking small steps, you can regain control over your emotions. When you do not give your power to anyone else, then you will feel real freedom? So think, are you ready to take back that remote of yours? So that your feelings remain only in your control.
Let's find out. Friends, the third thing that mentally strong people do not do. They don't shy away from change. Think, are you afraid of change? Whenever there is a new turn in life, does your heart start beating fast and your mind gets filled with thousands of negative thoughts? Tell me the truth.
Are you also one of those people who want to live in the comfort zone because everything is familiar there. It seems easy and there is less fear. But imagine if you keep doing what you have been doing till date, then you will get the same thing that you have got till date. No new success, no new thrill.
Just think. How many opportunities have knocked at your door and returned. Just because you did not have the courage to open them. We often think what will happen if we fail? What if people start laughing? What if everything gets spoiled? But have you ever thought what if everything goes well? This suspense is what makes life interesting. But we give up at the hands of our own fear.
Put your hand on your heart and ask. Do you really want your life to go on like this? The same old things, the same routine, the same small fears or are you ready to walk on that path where there are some difficulties. There is some uncertainty. But there is also that growth which you are really looking for. It is easy to run away from change.
But only those are strong who embrace it. Those who know that every change is a new opportunity. To prove yourself, to learn something new and to see the real strength within you. So think. Now the next time life brings a new opportunity to your door, will you reject it out of fear or will you take a deep breath and control your heartbeat and embark on that new journey because I know that on this path you will get what you dreamt of. Let's see where it takes you.
Friends, now we know the fourth thing that mentally strong people don't do. They don't waste energy on things. They can't control. Just think how busy your mind is. As soon as you wake up in the morning, thousands of things start going around. If it rains, if the boss gets angry, if you get stuck in traffic, then you keep wasting your energy in this tension throughout the day. Now put your hand on the dial and tell me.
Can you control these things? Can you stop the rain? Will other people behave according to you? Even then you spend all your precious time and mind power on these things. Imagine if you have only a fixed amount of energy for the whole day. Now if you waste that energy on things that are not in your control, then what will you be left with when the real challenges come? Many of us drain the entire battery of our mind on those things.
Like trying to control someone else's tongue or thinking about what people might think of us and slowly we start getting tired from inside. Now imagine if you decide that you will focus only on those things which are in your control. Like your attitude, your hard work, your honesty. Think how much energy you will have left for those things which are really important. Sometimes life puts us in such situations where nothing is in our control. But even there one thing is always in your hand.
You can decide your reaction, whether you will panic or move forward thinking positively. So think, will you still waste your mind power on those things which were never in your control or will you save your energy and use it in fulfilling your dreams because in the end only those people are able to move forward who use their brain battery in the right place. Let's see if you will also do the same from now on.
Friends, the fifth thing that mentally strong people do not do. They don't worry about pleasing everyone. Just think how many times in your life has it happened that you did some work only so that people are happy with you, even if your heart is not agreeing, still you said yes just out of fear that someone might get angry, how many times have you suppressed the voice of your mind just because you thought that if you refuse then what will people think, people will call you selfish or conservative and you do not want to become that person who disappoints others.
Now imagine your whole day goes like this. Trying to live up to someone's expectations. Sometimes in keeping the family happy, sometimes in impressing friends, and sometimes in fulfilling the standards of society. And slowly you lose yourself. Think, how does your heart feel when you stop listening to your heart every time for someone else's happiness?
Maybe it slowly becomes silent. It stops giving you signals. And then you feel that there is no excitement, no satisfaction left in your life. Now think from your heart. Is it possible to make everyone happy in the world?
Is there any person whom everyone likes? No, right? Then why are you wasting your whole life in this impossible task? Strong are those who know that sometimes it is necessary to say no.
Those people who understand that if they try to live up to everyone's expectations, they will betray themselves. So think, will you still keep spending your time and energy in the happiness of others? Or will you give priority to your happiness from now on? Because this is the truth.
You have to live your life yourself, no one else. So be ready to listen to your heart. Let's find out. The things that mentally strong people don't do. They don't fear taking calculated risks. Just think. Whenever a new opportunity comes in front of you, what is your first reaction?
The heartbeat increases. Thousands of what ifs start going around in the mind. What if I fail, what if I lose money, what if people start laughing and then you go back to the same old safe line. Now tell me with your hand on your heart.
Are you really afraid of risk or are you afraid of the result which may not be in your control? Because this is the truth. No big result comes without taking risk. Imagine if every successful person had stepped back thinking the same thing, would they have reached where they are today?
Think if your favorite actors, entrepreneurs or sports stars had chosen to stay in their comfort zone, would you be able to admire them today? Actually, the only difference is that they do not take blind risks. They calculate.
We think, we make plans. Still uncertainty remains. But we move forward despite fear. Think when you were small, learning to walk, how many times you fell, you must have been scared even then. But still you did not stop trying. Because you did not know that falling is bad. And see how easily you walk today.
Now the big question is can you reawaken that little child inside you who was not afraid of falling, who wanted to explore every new thing because that curiosity and that fearless spirit will take you where you really want to reach. So think are you ready to take a little calculated risk, to move forward despite being a little afraid because it is possible that beyond this fear your biggest dream is waiting for you.
Let's take that chance. Friends, this is the seventh thing that mentally strong people do not do. They don't dwell on the past. Stop and think for a while. Which memories repeat the most in your mind? The happiness of childhood or the moment when someone hurt you.
Maybe some of your mistakes don't let you sleep till date. Or the memories of a person who betrayed you still tear your heart apart. Most of us are living in the prison of our past. We think about the same old stories again and again. Why did it happen? How did it happen? I wish I hadn't done this.
And by getting stuck in this endless loop, we lose the happiness of our present. Think what are you getting by holding on to the past? Will all that come back? Will that person bring the same feelings in your life again or will that mistake of yours disappear by some magic?
No, right? Then why are you punishing your present moments for that yesterday which is not going to come back now. Now imagine if you release that past of yours by softly saying thanks. Say thank you. You taught me a lot.
Now you can go. Think how light your heart will feel. How free your breath will become and your mind will be filled with fresh ideas. Put your hand on your heart and think, do you want to give the same old pain to your tomorrow by living in the past or do you want to give it something new and beautiful so that when you look in the mirror next time, there is a sparkle in your eyes instead of guilt or regret.
A satisfaction that you have forgiven your past. So think, are you ready to let go of that old pain? Are you ready to give a new chance to your present and your tomorrow? Because maybe in this letting go you will find the peace you have been looking for for years.
Let's try it. The eighth thing that mentally strong people don't do. They don't make the same mistakes over and over. Just think, don't you feel that some problems come back to your life again and again?
Like an old movie which is being repeated again and again. Sometimes the same toxic relationship, sometimes the same financial crunch or the same wrong decisions that bring you back to the same place from where you wanted to run away.
Now put your hand on the dial and tell me. Do you really not understand where the mistake is happening? Or are you afraid of the truth that will force you to look inside yourself? Many of us keep justifying our same mistakes with new excuses. We say that I am like this.
My luck is bad or what should I do now? It has become a habit. But the truth is that until you recognize your patterns and break them, the same mistakes will keep coming in your life with new phases.
Now imagine if you stop for a while and analyze your mistakes honestly. Understand why the same situation is attracting you again and again. Maybe you realize that the problem is not outside but inside you.
And this realization will give you such a power that you will be able to stop your future mistakes. Think how much relief you will get when you feel that now you have come out of the cycle of those same mistakes. Your life is finally moving in a new direction.
You will not have to face the same old sorrows again. So think, are you ready to look at your mistakes with an open heart and learn from them so that the next time when life puts you in the same old situation, you can take a new and better decision with full maturity.
Because maybe this is the turning point that will take you to the life you have always dreamed of. Let's break that cycle. The ninth thing that mentally strong people do not do. They do not resent other people's success.
Just think, when you see someone on social media, his new car, his foreign trip, his wedding pictures or his promotion, what is the first emotion that comes to your heart? Does a smile come on your face? Or do you feel a slight prick in some corner of your heart? We are all human beings.
Sometimes it is normal to feel a little pinch from inside after seeing the success of others. But the problem starts when that small jealousy slowly turns into resentment. Then we start thinking why does this person get everything.
What did he do that is not happening in my life and without knowing we start harboring negativity in our heart. Now imagine if instead of wasting this energy in being jealous of others, you use it on your dreams. Imagine if you get inspired by seeing someone's success, get motivated and start working at double speed to achieve your goals. Think with your hand on your heart.
Can your jealousy reduce his success? Does your silent resentment make your life even a little better? On the contrary, it takes away your inner peace. Your confidence decreases and you start feeling inferior. Now just imagine if you learn to be truly happy in the happiness of others. Imagine when inspiration comes in your heart instead of jealousy.
Do you think that if he can do it then why can't I? You will feel so light, right? So think, will you still keep feeling disheartened seeing the success of others or will you consider their success as a signal that your time is also coming. You just have to focus on your hard work. Because I know that tomorrow someone will also get inspired by your success story.
Let's celebrate others and wait for your turn. And this is the tenth thing that mentally strong people don't do. They don't give up after the first failure. Just think how many times in your life has it happened that you worked hard for something with all your heart. You also kept high expectations.
But then everything collapsed and that first defeat filled you with such fear that you didn't try again. There are many people among us who accept after the first failure that maybe this is not in our power. Then we start giving excuses.
My luck is bad. This is not made for me. I tried, but and this very thought traps them in the place where they are forever. Now imagine. What would have happened if even the most successful people of the world had given up after the first failure? Do you even know them? Think. If a child while learning to walk falls for the first time and decides that he will never stand up again, will he ever be able to walk?
Actually failure comes only to show that more improvement is needed. It polishes you. It brings out the weaknesses within you so that you can stand stronger next time. Think. It is not a big deal to fail in the first attempt. The big thing is when you decide not to try anymore. That fear gets inside you.
And then you see only risk in every new opportunity. Now just ask your heart. Do you always want to live with this regret that I wish I had tried again? Or would you like to become that person who gets up even after falling.
I wiped the dust off my hands and started walking again. Because it is possible that your success lies just beyond that next attempt. So think, are you ready for another chance? Let's try again. Because maybe this time you will win.
The 11th thing that mentally strong people don't do. They don't fear alone time. Just think. Whenever you have to sit alone, no one is around, how does your heart feel then? Do you start feeling restless? Do you feel like picking up the phone and chatting with someone or try to fill that silence by turning on the TV.
This is the truth. Most of us don't like to be alone because when we are alone, all our fears, all our questions, all our unfulfilled dreams stand in front of us and to escape from all of them, we start looking for company so that we don't have to listen to the voices of our own mind.
Now imagine if you make that alone time your biggest strength. Think of that time when no one is disturbing you, when you can explore your thoughts. You can talk to your heart. Put your hand on your heart and tell me when was the last time you really sat with yourself and thought about your life.
About your goals, your failures, your dreams or did you always keep listening to others. Kept ignoring your inner voice. Actually, being alone introduces you to yourself. It tells you who you really are. What do you want and in which direction to go.
But when you are afraid of being alone, then you lose your own identity. Now think, do you really want to live your whole life in fear of being alone or do you want to become that person who can be happy even while living with himself because when you start liking living with yourself then no crowd of the world will be able to make you feel incomplete.
So think, are you ready now to see that loneliness not as your fear but as your biggest teacher. Let's sit with ourselves, may be there you get those answers which you were searching for years. They don't feel the world owes them anything. Just think.
Has it ever come to your mind that the world should be a little more fair with you? That you should get everything that you want without much struggle, without losing again and again. And when this does not happen, you feel as if life has done some injustice to you. Now put your hand on the dial and tell me, is the world really going to do something special for you?
Has this life brought any special treatment for you? No, right? And this is the harsh truth that hurts us the most. We often think that if we have worked hard, we should get the fruits of our hard work or if we have done good to someone, he will also do good to us. But life never gives such guarantees. And when our expectations are broken, then we start complaining.
I was born, why did this happen to me? Why is my life so tough? Now imagine if you accept that the world will not do anything for you, then all the complaints will automatically disappear from your heart. Then you will make your efforts not in the hope of any reward but only for your growth.
Think how powerful it will feel. Think from the heart. When you come out of this mindset that the world will give me something, then you will feel more accountable, then the steering of your life will be in your hands. Then you will also understand that your happiness, your success, is your responsibility.
So think, will you still believe that this world has some debt on you which it will never repay or will you carry every responsibility of your life on your shoulders from now on. Because this is the attitude that will take you ahead the fastest. Let's stop expecting and start owning. This is the last thing that mentally strong people do not do, they do not expect immediate results.
Just think, whenever you start any new work like going to the gym, doing meditation or any new business plan, what are the expectations in your heart? Somewhere you feel that the results will start showing soon. In a few days your body will be transformed, your mind will become calm or your bank account will become fat. But when it does not happen, then restlessness starts increasing inside you.
You think that I am working so hard, still why am I not able to see anything and slowly your patience starts ending. Then a day comes when you give up and give up that goal. Now imagine if every great thing was available so easily then what would be its value? Strong body, peaceful mind or financial freedom. All these are slow processes.
These things take time. Just like you don't get fruits immediately after sowing a seed, similarly your efforts also need time to grow. Think with your hand on your heart. Is your haste taking away your own victory? Don't you turn back before reaching that destination? Now feel the suspense that happens in a slow process. Those small daily victories that give you signals that you are in the right direction. That patience that strengthens you from within.
And then one day when you look back, you realize how magical your entire journey was? So think, will you still want to remain that person who wants quick results and then gets disappointed and leaves everything or will you work like that person from now on who will not stop no matter how long it takes to achieve his dream because maybe your biggest results are just waiting for you standing on the last step of that patience. Let's keep going slow but unstoppable.
Conclusion:
So now just close your eyes and think how long a journey you have come so far. Each chapter forced you to look inside yourself. Somewhere you caught hold of your old habits, somewhere you saw your unnecessary fears, somewhere you felt the jealousy that arose on seeing the success of others.
But now imagine if you really implemented these 13 small but powerful things in your life, how will your life be? Think how light your mind will feel. No regrets, no guilt, no unnecessary comparisons, no burden of others' expectations.
Just your dreams and your hard work. Put your hand on the deal and think. Are you ready to become that person who is so mentally strong that no situation can break him. Who does not complain like others but takes responsibility for himself. Who learns from his past but does not get stuck in it. Who slowly and with patience takes his life to the place where he always wanted to reach.
So let's make a promise to yourself that now you will make your mental strength your biggest power. Because this is the secret that will make you different from others. This is the mindset that will help you in making your every dream come true.
If you liked this summary, this journey from the bottom of your heart, then definitely share it with your friends so that they too can achieve everything they deserve by becoming mentally strong in their lives. And yes, remember this journey will not be completed in a day. But if you take the first step today, then believe me you are already ahead of everyone else. So be ready, keep learning and keep moving forward. Because your best is yet to come.
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